Pulling the Plug

Have you ever made a decision that seemed so right at the time and then found yourself not able to follow through?

Nearly two years ago, the hubby and I purchased a unit in a mid rise condo that was to begin construction shortly thereafter. The decision made perfect sense as it would allow us to lock and leave when we headed to Maine and we’d be down sizing and ridding ourselves of all responsibility maintaining a home.

The fact that the place wouldn’t be ready for a while gave us plenty of time to prepare. For weeks we went through the house throwing away, giving away and selling everything that didn’t seem essential. I packed box after box of things that would go with us to the new place. We spruced up the yard, painted the interior with a non threatening neutral palette, removed everything but the barest essentials in preparation to sell.

Not until the For Sale sign went up did I give a second thought to moving. Then the reality hit me and I realized that leaving the house and the neighborhood was more of a challenge for me than anticipated. Still, I went on thinking it was the right thing to do.

So, what happened? A couple of days before we left for Maine in May we did a walk through the new place. It was hard to tell much about the unit as it was barely more than framed in, but I knew every square inch from having studied the floor plan for months. As we walked through the space, tears started trickling as I couldn’t imagine myself there no matter how lovely the building, how convenient the location, how fun it would be to meet new people.

To make a long story short, I announced I wasn’t moving. The hubby was somewhat taken aback though not totally surprised as I’d been saying for several weeks that I didn’t think I could move. Still, it was awkward and created some tension, but we immediately took our house off the market and went to Maine where we proceeded to enjoy time there without thinking about what would happen in Houston.

So, here we are back in Houston where we had to revisit the decision and face the reality of it. Right or wrong, we are staying in place. The last of the boxes I had so carefully packed has been unloaded, and both the hubby and I are content to stay in our new look place that for the time being is well organized and uncluttered. What happens with the condo is still up in the air, but it’ll all work out.

Though I have some regrets about what has happened, the outcome seems so right. Maybe some things are just not meant to be. At some level, even the hubby is thinking that as well which is a very good thing!

17 thoughts on “Pulling the Plug

  1. You went with your heart Linda and going with your heart is always the right decision!

  2. Marcia Fennell Gardner February 1, 2020 — 4:22 pm

    Just think! In a way, you ARE getting a “new home” in Houston. The new palate, whether or not you make some changes, and re-arranging must be energizing!
    Driving by the still unfinished condo building (where you planned to move), my husband and I noticed a taller place has been built nextdoor that obscures the lovely downtown skyline! Not what you wanted, eh?
    And then there’s MAINE!

    1. Sometimes things just don’t work out and in this case I’m glad.

  3. Lulu,
    You follow your heart and listen to your gut feelings. Don’t feel a second of guilt or feel that you have to explain yourself! This is YOUR home and YOUR life.

    Maybe you will move: One day when the time is right for you, and when your heart and gut confirm that this is the right moment for a move.

    Conversely you may never move, but instead grow to enjoy your new slimmed down, uncluttered, home that had it’s own small makeover during this process.

    Either way, our homes are like the crab’s shell houses… they are no good if they don’t fit! Yours obviously still fits: emotionally as well as physically. Y

    Your home is far more than just a “space” to live in. It is packed with memories, laughter, tears and echo’s of all of life’s ups and downs. It bears the dings and scratches and tiny scars of the time a kid crash landed after riding their bike inside, attempting a gymnastic move they never trained for, balls thrown that hit walls, or just the tantrum you had with the vacuum cleaner hose that jammed. Your home has a history and it’s a chapter of this history book that you are not quite ready to close.
    NEVER feel guilty about that.

    BIG HUGS… and celebrate by having a Housewarming party, any gift to a charity or something… and idea???
    regards— kiwi 🙂

  4. I know how you feel, we have put so much into each of the unique homes we have owned…especially the 1730’s farm house in New Hampshire where it took 5 years to restore it to museum quality. Then one day, Mickey said we needed to downsize and move closer to family. I shed a lot of tears as it was my “Martha” house and I didn’t want to leave.. Now that we have lived in Florida for a couple of years and made lots of friends, I couldn’t be happier. You made your home so special and you will know when it is the right time to leave it in the care of others…until then, enjoy every day.

  5. You followed your heart!
    I would not allow my siblings to sale our childhood home… so I bought it! And everyone is so happy I did! We have to follow our heart! Hugs!

  6. This sounds a bit like the advice I give to friends who are embarking on retirement. They always say they are going to sell the home place and move into a smaller place. I always suggest they wait to make that decision until after a year or so of retirement. More time together often works better when the house is big enough to establish your own space to be by yourself!

  7. Oh boy…glad you are getting to the same page with this decision. Hope all goes well with unloading the condo.

  8. Good for you Linda, you followed your heart. I can’t imagine leaving our home of 41 years, but at some point we will not be able to keep up thirty one acres of land. Until then, we will be here.

  9. We talk, from time to time, about downsizing here in NC. My head understands but my heart does not. So far my heart is winning! I understand your decision completely. Happy New Year.

  10. entertainingwomen January 11, 2020 — 9:18 am

    My beloved husband of more than 51 years would simply say, “Happy wife, happy life.” I never could see you leaving your living canvas, your home. CherryKay

  11. I’m a long-time reader and admirer of you and your blog, Linsey and I once worked together in Houston and are still in touch. Could we please chat offline? I’d like to ask your opinion on blogging since you have evolved with this communications tool.

  12. Oh wow Linda! I am glad you are following your heart and staying in the home you love!

  13. Oh, Linda, I know EXACTLY how you feel. We haven’t had the realty for sale on the place yet, but I’m looking around every single day thinking – I DON’T WANT TO LEAVE. I want to stay in this neighborhood and that is the hassle. It’s quite a dilemma. Enough said! I want to come for a visit to your palace in Houston, Linda!

  14. It’s a woman’s prerogative to change her mind. 😅 I don’t know where the saying originated, but I remember my mom saying it a few times.

  15. I was actually going to call you about your decision and now I just read this, we too are deciding what to do
    I need to make some changes if we stay here

  16. Marcia Flaherty Smith January 10, 2020 — 4:36 pm

    So sorry for the upset/ we live in a small condo in DC that we can lock and leave easily to go to Maine. I still socialize with all my suburban friends / weekly. George still works and is able to walk there from our condo which I think makes a big difference. We also are a former military family so moving is no big deal. Hope you are happy with your decision! You can always change your mind! It’s what makes the world go round!!! Enjoy

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