ramblings, Thoughts

What To Do?

There comes a time when one has to think about what to do next as it applies to housing.  So many things influence that decision particularly health, lifestyle, empty nest.  The hubby and I are thinking we may be at that point now, but making a decision involving change is not easy.

We live in a house we love.  It is one that we dreamed about for years before finally building, and it is pretty near perfect except for the fact that we no longer need all the space.  Our daughters are gone, I’m not working in my studio as much which means the entire second floor goes unused except for those few days a year when a relative visits.

In addition, we spend half the year in Maine where we are fortunate to have another house.  Thanks to having frequent guests, its space is much more utilized, but it is not a forever home.

So, what do we do?  It makes sense in Houston to downsize.  To that end we’ve looked at so called luxury apartments thinking it makes sense to rent rather than buy.

We’ve looked at condos that reach high into the sky and open to either lovely views of Houston or rooftops with mechanical equipment and parking.

We’ve checked out midrises that seem a bit more intimate than the multistoried condos and apartments.

We’ve visited some lovely townhome developments, but a townhome doesn’t satisfy our desire to have a lock and leave place.

So, what’s a couple who’s happy in place but realizing it may no longer make sense do?  Do any of the rest of you face this conundrum and how have you addressed it? Right now I’m feeling like Scarlet O’Hara whose approach to a hard decision was often to think about it tomorrow.

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Thanksgiving, Thoughts

Tips for a Stress Free Thanksgiving


Thanksgiving need not be stressful, and to keep that from happening here’s what I’m thinking will be helpful.

Set your table several days in advance.  That’s a fun job that could help you get in the right frame of mind.

Plan your menu and make a shopping list.

Don’t wait until the last minute to go to the grocery store.  Go early morning or late evening to avoid some of the craziness.

Prepare as many dishes as possible in advance so that on Thanksgiving day they only have to be baked or warmed.  If guests are coming, don’t be shy about asking them to bring a favorite dish.  They are probably happy not to be preparing the entire meal!

In the days preceding, put aside any anxiety, uneasiness or distress you have and focus on that for which you are grateful.  There’s probably much more than you think.

At the Thanksgiving table, avoid any conversation about politics or the outcome of the election.  Enough is enough!

Most of all don’t worry about everything being perfect but focus on the privilege of spending time with family and friends who mean so much.

AND don’t forget to take the turkey out to thaw!

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving all of you.

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Random, Thoughts

Random Thoughts

Here at Lulu’s Musings the majority of posts have to do with Maine, travel, food and tablescapes, fun stuff that I enjoy sharing.  Every now and then, however, I have to share words about something that invades my thoughts and won’t let go like this line from Richard Rohr’s book Radical Grace:

What we love the most often gives us the greatest pain.

I read that sentence again and again, each time being hit with a new thought.  Among the first was of family and friends and the mutual pain we may have caused one another.  That is the worst kind of pain, the kind we least want to experience.

While my first thoughts may have been ones about relationships, they went immediately to other areas where what we love causes uncomfortable pain.  More and more I’m realizing that the physical activities that I have loved for years are leaving pain in their wake.  

I love tennis, but these days I know that when a hard match is over I am going to feel  joints tightening up and will need an extra dose of Aleve to soften the pain. The same is true following a session of  yoga or pilate’s  where there are moves that don’t come so easily any more.  Even taking long walks can sometimes be a challenge. Mention any physical discomfort and the response is, “Well, that’s what happens as you get older.”  Age seems to be what is blamed for so much of what causes pain, and I rebel against that notion every day.  

In no area of my life do I want what I love to cause pain, either mental or physical, yet I’m keenly aware that what Richard Rohr says is true.  How I wish it weren’t so!  Is it the same for you?

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