What’s a Parent to Do?

“Mom, Dad, you guys need to start getting rid of some of your stuff.”  

These are the words we are hearing often from our daughters.  While they may be right, here’s what we hear in those words.

  1.  You are getting old.
  2.  We don’t want to have to deal with it when you can’t.
  3.  We don’t want any of it.

Now, there’s probably some truth in all of that, but none of it feels very good.  And, it makes me a little sad that none of what we have seems important to our kids.  There was a time when things were passed down, but these days it appears that is not the case as adult children enjoy more collecting their own things.

So, what’s a parent to do?  Well, the easiest thing would be to donate the unnecessaries.  Eventually, I will do that, but for now I still enjoy having a garage sale.  Of course, you sell for pennies on the dollar, but people who buy think they are getting a good deal and I like the interacting and the deal making which is a big part of a garage sale.

IMG_1008While some clever person actually published a wonderful book of garage sale photos, I’m probably not that ambitious, so I focus on the presentation as if I were doing a shop.

IMG_0991Clothes are carefully organized by style, size and gender.  A simple rack the hubby made for me back in the days when I did shows displaying my woven pieces has been invaluable for garage sales.

IMG_0993The same is true for another of his clever creations which works perfectly for arranging accessories.

IMG_0990Household and kitchen goods are arranged just so making it easy for shoppers to see without having to move things around.

IMG_0992Books are always a challenge, and no matter how orderly I arrange them it doesn’t take long for them to be all askew.

IMG_0999At the end of the day most of the stuff is gone, and I feel good about having gotten rid of some of what the girls don’t want to have to deal with.  My only disappointment is that this top didn’t sell.  Maybe all the stories that go with it mean that it should stay with me for at least one more Christmas dinner!

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18 thoughts on “What’s a Parent to Do?

  1. I think the top should stay!!

  2. entertainingwomen May 14, 2018 — 12:17 am

    I have to confess that my thought was, “What was she thinking when she decided to get rid of that top. She could either wear ir for Christmas or make a fun Christmas pillow out of it.” Giggle. CherryKay

    1. You wouldn’t believe how many holiday wearing that top has seen. Now if I don’t show up in it, people are disappointed. I’m thinking enough is enough.

  3. Blis Angerman May 14, 2018 — 6:41 am

    Yes, having received the households from my grandmothers and mother, I have had years of paring down. As you get rid of things your girls don’t want, tell them the story. Take a photo and send a text about the piece. Then it can go to someone else making a new memory with it. You are now blessing others.

    1. Something similar happened with a lady who was interested in a Bentwood rocker. When I told her its history, she had to have it which made me happy.

  4. I was just thinking about my china and finer serving pieces, wondering if my children or my nieces would want any of it, and I don’t think so! No one entertains formally anymore, and frankly I don’t know what to do with all my stuff!! I also don’t have the energy or desire to start the overwhelming process! Your displays look like a vintage shop, lovely!

    1. It is somewhat disappointing that no one wants to lay claim to our stuff, but it’s understandable once you accept that kids, etal, enjoy collecting and their taste might be quite different. One daughter has spoken for the piano which made her dad happy.

  5. Catherine Kinsella May 14, 2018 — 8:31 am

    Great blog…and now I see how well you orchestrated your garage sale. So many great items…glad I was not there!! That’s all I need is to be buying, when I should be culling😜.

    As for your unsold top. Bring it to Maine! I have a most similar model in blue & silver. I will have a sparkle theme dinner & we can wear them. I too have put off giving it away…pourquoi?

    Looking forward to my right eye surgery on Wednesday….so, then I can sing “I Can See Clearly Now!”

    XXOO, Cathy

    Sent from my iPhone


  6. Wish I’d been there!! You’ll have to help me stage my next yard sale in mid/late June! Very impressive!

  7. Laura Moorehead May 14, 2018 — 2:12 pm

    I would have loved to go to your garage sale!! We had several of them before we moved. Now I’m starting to build up too much “stuff” again. Guess I didn’t learn my lesson.

    1. I have to resist any more collecting as we are going to be downsizing soon.

  8. I can totally understand Lulu, and had to chuckle while reading because it brought on a good many memories of working with my parents in cleaning out some of their things. I need to do the same thing ~ not an enjoyable task.

  9. I have so much that belonged to my Mother. I so hope my son wants it all. Wear the top a few more times, Linda!

  10. Linda, I so identify with your sentiments about this! It breaks my heart that our daughters don’t want any of our stuff, but they don’t. But I am not ready to part with most of it. They just might get to do that when I am gone!

  11. “We don’t want any of it” is a familiar sound in our house, too, Linda. The youth of today have their own style of living, don’t they? I am going to use masking tape and put it on certain items to show who shall get this piece when I’m gone. When we moved from Dallas to Maine I told the kids “if you want something from a room in our house – you take the whole room! And they did! Now, the sparkle in that blouse is worth keeping in your closet, offering you memories of those times when you wore it.😎

  12. I can totally relate. I know my son will call a donation center and say bring an 18 Wheeler!! I am purging more now than ever!!

    1. You never look like you are purging because something wonderful always catches your eye!

  13. Great parenting advice… thanks for sharing.

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