Time Out


As my daughters became adults, I realized that the time we shared together would become less and less. Trying to think of some way to keep us from drifting apart, I felt that each year it would be nice for the three of us to do something special together. For a time that worked, but along came husbands and then children and our excursions came to a halt. Fortunately, all of us ended up living in Houston making it possible to gather for family dinners and special occasions. And when the hubby and I began spending time in Maine, they were a part of that, too.

Now, that is about to change as one daughter and her family are moving, and all of the family’s emotions are running wild! I can hardly bear the thought of her and her hubby not being close and thinking about their girls not being available for whatever adventure we dream up brings me to my knees. What makes me really sad though is knowing my two girls will be in separate places.

They are as different as night and day, salt and pepper, black and white, but since they became aware of one another they have been best friends.

Only a year separates them, but there has never been a moment’s competition or jealousy between them. They are able to say things to each other that no one else could. Thinking about all this, I wanted one last time for the three of us before everything changed. What to do at the last minute that would be close and something we’d all enjoy?

Lake Austin Spa was the answer and provided just the time we needed.

Time to talk,

to be silly,

to be together,

to say goodbye.
If you are inclined to say a little prayer, please include all of us as we separate and figure out how to adjust.

24 thoughts on “Time Out

  1. More thoughts Lulu…
    Maybe your daughter and grandchildren could start a (private) blog of their own, upload photos of drawings they have done and notes of daily/weekly/special events and you “get mail” whenever they make a blog post for you..

    If it were a private blog and not just email you would have it as a “record” of their highs, lows, and adjustments to a new place and it would be very personal to you and your family (other daughter access too etc) if all parties could enter private blog posts as well you could treat it as an interactive narrative and it might be really fun to look back on later.

    Blog posts could be as long or as short as you wanted, photos only some days etc even just you pulling a funny face and posting it on the blog, fun mail to open and see.

    If it;s private then you could make it really personal… and special for your family and it would make the contact also personal even if you aren’t there in the flesh.

    Avenues of communication are open to you like never before… technology can be used to build happy memories too… why not take advantage and make it work for you as much as possible!

    just a wild idea 🙂

  2. It’s difficult to live apart, but you will always have your beautiful memories 🙂 There is always Skype – not the same, but will make life much easier to be able to talk and see each other 🙂 I have my mum in Sweden and I live on the other side of the planet and it would be so much harder not to be able to see her – and for her not to be able to see her only two grandchildren. Enjoy your time together!
    Greetings from Australia

    1. Thank you for reminding me that distance doesn’t have to be a problem. I have to remind myself that we are lucky the kids aren’t moving to the other side of the world. I appreciate your stopping by with your comment.

  3. I am so grateful for your kind responses. As a family, ours have been fortunate to enjoy the last few years together, but as any parent understands it’s always hard when one of the chickens leaves the roost!

  4. What a special connect you all share and how lovely that you got to celebrate it this weekend. Thanks for sharing; you’re in my thoughts!

  5. All our family is in Florida and we do miss them and hate that we are not part of the everyday lives. But as Kiwidutch said, you must be thankful for all the ways that we can keep in touch with each other.

    1. Not being part of what goes on on a daily basis is what I hate the most thinking about, but we will get used to it as there is no choice.

      1. Lula, I know what you are going through more than you know but you will all get through this. Our lives change, some things we can do something about, other things we don’t have any control over. You have to accept what you can not change.

  6. Thought I saw you tonight at Shepherd’s pie- eating at the bar???? Was it you?? Wished I had spoken!! We are back in Maine for the summer! Marcia

  7. Hi lulu, you have a beautiful family and it’s obvious to see the special bond you have. Being apart from family is always difficult but at least modern technology means yuo’re never too far away from seeing their face or hearing their voices. You’ll just have to plan more special events and delight in the love filled memories you already have, and will continue to have. God bless!

    1. Thanks for reminding me that distance is the only thing that separates when we have so many ways of staying in touch.

  8. In the previous century(s) going away meant no face to face contact with loved ones ever again in a lifetime…letters were possible but usually the only form of contact and long sea voyages or days on the road were expensive and time off to make these journeys was something you could could only dream about.

    Think of the positives instead of the downsides, you can get a plane ticket, or make the road trip (ok depends on where they moved to) and things like Skype make them seem like they are next to you much of the time anyway.
    Plan a trip, make a space and time to skype regularly, get back to old fashioned snail-mail and making little surprise packages and cherish the different place they are in rather than resenting it.

    Look on it as an adventure where they are going out into the big world and learning new things… Have them “report” all of these new things back to you .. and this process could be very much adding to your relationship not taking away from it.

    It will be what you make it… and your face to face meetings will be all the sweeter too… yes the saying goodbye is hard, but unlike families before us, it’s no longer the lifelong sentence of never seeing again that it used to be. Thank You God that we live in these times and not in those.

    Embrace it!

  9. what a wonderful time out

  10. Your day at the spa looks and sounds like a special treat to remember. And somehow, who knows exactly how, I’m sure you will figure a way to make it all work

    1. The spa was a hard place to leave, and it was good for each of us.

  11. Linda, I have really been thinking about it.I have been sad for you and for the girls. But… All of you will be just fine. Cell phones, face time, skype, will fill in the gaps. You will plan get togethers and it will be fine. Where there is a will there is a way.

    1. You are right, Bonnie, and we have been lucky to have all our chickens in one place the last few years.

  12. My heart goes out to you, dear Linda. I faced the prospect of moving away from my only son exactly one year ago today. It was the most gut-wrenching time of my life. As fate smiled upon us, we ended up not moving after all, but that feeling will always be with me of the time we spent saying our goodbyes. I know you will cherish this excursion even more as time passes. Again, my heart goes out to you all.

    1. Good byes are bummers, but thankfully, they are not always forever!

  13. shirley@housepitalitydesigns May 27, 2012 — 7:17 pm

    Oh my, I cannot imagine what you are going through…We relocated to be near our son and his wife when they started a family…We love being close to them…Just think, the times you do spend together would be even more special….Hopefully they will be a short plane ride away…
    Hang in there….glad you had a great time at the Spa.

  14. What a wonderful way to say your goodbyes! Just the three of you in a beautiful, restful place with know one but each other to answer to. I know that you will work the logistics out and be together as often as possible, not the same but still doable for people with a bond and love in their heart. I will say a prayer for your family.

    1. Taking the time to be together was a gift! Thanks for your prayer.

  15. Billie Keirstead May 27, 2012 — 7:06 pm

    I’m sad for you. And I understand how hard this separation will be. You all will be in my thoughts.

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